12 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

You’re trying to convince yourself that things are still going well with your boyfriend, but are they? It’s possible that he’s over it and you’re in denial. Make sure you don’t let any potentially obvious signs he doesn’t love anymore slip you by. Here are a few to keep an eye out for.

1. His eyes are blank. When you talk to him about your day or something that’s been on your mind, you see that he zones out right in front of you. His eyes go blank and maybe he even makes it obvious that he’s not interested in what you have to say by doing things like checking his watch or looking for an escape out of the room.
2. He "forgets" to invite you out . You found out he hung out with your mutual friends but didn’t invite you. Hmm. If this happens regularly, it’s clear he’s not forgetting to invite you but choosing not to. Stop believing his lame excuses, like that he assumed you had something else on so he didn’t get in touch. Oh please.
3. He doesn’t notice you. So, it’s no newsflash that sometimes guys don’t notice when you get your eyebrows done or new highlights put in your hair, but if he always used to notice these things and now you could walk past him looking completely different and he’d be none the wiser, that’s a red flag. If he’s not noticing you, then he’s checking out – and that could be linked to a lowered interest in you.
4. He’s snappy. Again, if his moods never used to yo-yo so much but now any little thing you say or do can set him off and make him irritable, that’s a bad sign. It could also be a way for him to push you away, which is a cowardly thing to do. He might think that you’ll get pissed off with how he’s so snappy with you that you’ll walk away and take the pressure of him having to do it.
5. He’s a "can't" man . He used to be willing to make an effort to help you, support you, and meet you halfway, but now he doesn’t seem to be able to do anything. He’s making zero effort, basically. He can’t initiate contact, he can’t drive out to see you, and he has a ton of excuses for all the things he can’t do. Ugh, it’s so annoying.
6. He lets fights fizzle. This is one of the biggest signs he doesn’t love you anymore. After a fight, he doesn’t want to talk about what happened, check in with you to see how you’re feeling, or resolve things so that you guys don’t fall into a toxic fighting pattern in the future. He just walks out of the room or doesn’t want to mention it again, so it’s like he checks out instead of working on things with you. That’s a clear sign he doesn’t want to work on your relationship.

More signs he doesn’t love you anymore

1. He’s not into loving words anymore. He used to tell you he loves you or call you cute nicknames, but now he never says any of those affectionate words. When you say them to him first, he might just fall silent or change the subject. Or, he might even become irritable when you’re loving, which feels terrible.
2. He writes off your feelings. When you’re having a bad time and want to talk to him about your feelings, he doesn’t seem very empathetic. He might tell you not to worry or dish out some generic words of advice that make you feel worse. He just doesn’t seem to care about your feelings, which is a sure sign he doesn’t love you anymore.
3. He’s avoiding your family. Although your family loves the guy, lately it seems like he just wants to avoid those people who are closest to you. So, when you invite him to your dad’s birthday party or your sister’s graduation party, he makes an excuse for why he can’t attend.
4. He doesn’t have much to say. He used to get in touch with you every day with fun news or just to say hi, but now it’s like he’s just going through the motions of texting and calling you. You might find that he doesn’t have much to say to you when he gets in touch, he uses one-word answers, or he falls silent during conversations. It’s so awkward.
5. He’s blocking you out. While it’s healthy for you and him to have your own lives outside of the relationship, lately it seems like he’s keeping you out of his life. He doesn’t fill you in on what he’s doing in his spare time when he’s not with you or he doesn’t let you know about big things that are happening with him. He’s slowly pulling away from you. This is one of the saddest yet most obvious signs he doesn’t love you anymore.
6. He puts you down in public. It’s not cool if your partner wants to bring you down in public, even if it seems like he’s just kidding around or laughing with you. He’s not – he’s putting you down because it makes him feel good about himself and he’s clearly not treating you with the respect you deserve as his girlfriend.