What To Do When There Is No Romance In Your Relationship

Romance is necessary for every relationship but it doesn't look the same for every couple.

Don't give up if you feel like your significant other, girlfriend, or boyfriend isn't romantic enough.  Luckily, it's never too late to address the no romance in a relationship issue. 

 

Here are 4 reasons why it might seem like there's no romance in your relationship, and how to rekindle a relationship in need of expressing that romantic love.

1. You and your partner are stuck.

If you feel stuck and in a passionless place in your relationship, you're probably not making it up. You've probably got real and legitimate reasons why you believe there's a lack of romance.

When you feel stuck, get curious. Stop looking for who's to blame, and try to get clearer about why you feel stuck and what habits (that you and your partner have) are contributing to this.

The more you can figure out how you and your partner are stuck, and the more you can get creative and make more time to really be with one another, the easier it will be to bring back the romance.

2. Resentment and/or anger are in the way.

There are no bigger passion killers than resentment and anger. Both build up and can be a dangerous pair.

If you recognize either of these emotions dominant within you or your relationship, trace it back to the source. What events are you still holding onto? What conflicts remain unresolved?

Take steps to make peace with the past, resolve divisive issues that linger between you and your partner, and live more fully in the present moment. It's not going to encourage your partner to be more romantic when you are still angry about how badly he (she or they) handled a past anniversary or special occasion, for instance.

You might need to let go of the past by yourself or in conversation with your partner. It's the first step to rekindling the romance in your marriage or relationship.

 

3. One or both of you are afraid to trust.

Another block to romance is mistrust. When you don't fully trust your partner (or yourself), you hold back. You aren't as open and intimate with your mate, and this is felt.

Feeling comfortable with one another is the key to receiving love. Understanding men, women, and people you date will allow you to feel love.

4. You have different ideas of what romance and love are.

It happens all of the time. Both people in the relationship have completely different preferences and ideas of love and romance. One might believe that he or she is expressing feelings of love, while the other person doesn't see it.

Just because your boyfriend doesn't wish you a happy valentine's day on social media, doesn't mean he's not a romantic guy. Maybe his romantic gestures come in the form of date nights. Spending time with you could be how he shows his love.

All people, men, and women have different expressions and love. Not everyone gives and receives love and care in the same ways.

Before you criticize your unromantic boyfriend, tell him what your needs are. Then ask him to do the same.