Things You Need To Know About Your First Love

First love is sweet, exciting, and also confusing. Let me give you the heads up on what you should know before you take the plunge.

Here are 3 more things you should be aware of when you first fall in love.

#1 True love emotions can sometimes be overwhelming and confusing.  Falling in love doesn’t literally mean that you are actually in love yet. When you’re falling in love, you feel infatuated, giddy, creative and sensational, but sometimes, these feelings can turn into obsession and co-dependency.

 

If you don’t control your emotions, you will feel that you can no longer live without that person, and then, instead of a healthy relationship, you become a relationship addict. Relationship addiction can be emotionally destructive, demanding and abusive. Learn to control yourself and your emotions, as not doing this may lead you to become excessively clingy.

#2 Unreasonable expectations are usually on the agenda. When you fall in love, you may start to expect certain things from your partner, things you’ve only seen in movies and read about in books. For the first few weeks you will enjoy expecting them, but soon this will get on your nerves. Trust me.

Since you have no prior experience of what it’s like to be in love, your point of reference would often be fiction. You start to expect your love life to play out like one of your favorite rom-coms. However, real life and reel life are completely different. You may yearn for the grand romantic gestures and the professions of undying love, but you’ll just be setting yourself up for disappointment.

#3 You will sometimes live by false hopes and unrealistic thinking. You might start to believe in concepts like being meant to be or being “destined” for each other. While this is okay to an extent, this thinking can cause you to work against the odds, even when red flags are waving in your face.

Relationships require work, that’s true. But you also have to be aware of what’s worth working for. If your partner simply doesn’t treat you right or if you’re only sticking around because you want your first love to be your last, you have to snap back to reality and think of whether or not this relationship is really worth your time.

Remember, everyone falls in love for the first time, but everyone is different. Your first love may be your first hard-hitting lesson in love, and you must be open to the possibility that your first won’t be your last.