Ways To Keep Romance Alive When You Have Kids

Oftentimes, couples invest most of their time and energy providing for their kids. Dates become less often, romantic gestures are few and far in between, and diminishing sex life!

Is your romantic life dwindling to a halt after the arrival of kids? Use these 8 naughty ways to step it up and bring sexy back into your lives!

#1 Save water, shower together. Don’t settle for a good morning peck on the cheek from your partner. Before you head off to your respective daily duties, hop in the shower together and have some fun.

You may not have enough time for each other for the rest of the day, so bonding while doing your hygiene routine may give you something to look forward to each morning.

#2 Have a daily ritual. Rituals and routines may not seem romantic, but it’s the consistency that keeps your bond intact. Showering is just one of many daily rituals you can do. A couple of other examples include spending your lunch hour together *if you work near each other* or cuddling for a couple of minutes before getting up or before heading to sleep.

#3 Go on a weekly date. Once a week, have at least one romantic date. You don’t even need to hire a babysitter for this. In fact, you don’t even need to get out of the house. When your kids are safely tucked into bed, head over to the kitchen to prepare a romantic evening meal with your partner.

Bring out the fancy plates, the scented candles, some sexy music and your most dashing outfit, and pretend to be at a fine dining restaurant. This can be enough to bring back your confidence.

#4 Use technology to flirt. You and your partner might be at work all day, and this may not leave you much room to even chat on the phone. And when you do get home, you’d also need to spend time with the kids. What you can do is use technology to leave a sweet or sexy message for your partner. Simply saying that you miss your partner or that you can’t wait to see them can be enough to remind them of how much you care.

#5 Get chores out of the way ASAP. Nothing is more unromantic than a big old mess when you arrive home. Cleaning up the house itself may not be romantic, but having a neat house to come home to gives you and your partner more freedom to move, and more free time to spare to do other things together.

#6 Take turns with a massage. This is something you can do even when your kids are around. While you’re spending time with your kid, whether it’s watching TV, helping them with homework or just watching as your kid is playing, take turns with your partner to do a quick foot massage or a backrub. Physical contact with your significant other is always a plus when it comes to strengthening your bond.

#7 Watch a steamy movie once the kids are asleep. The thing with kids is that after a long day of playing, they fall right into a deep, satisfying sleep. It’s this kind of sleep that should get you excited, because it means you can get away with making a little noise. Get some recommendations, and put on a movie that’s sure to get you in the mood.

#8 For the ladies, indulge in some sexy lingerie. A lot of women have issues with their appearance after they’ve had a kid. They think their partners won’t like the changes that pregnancy has brought upon their bodies. But stretch marks, a few extra love handles and a bit of weight are your badge of pride for bringing life into the world. To give you a confidence boost, get your hands on some sexy lingerie!