Harsh Statements To Avoid In A Relationship

Remember the old saying “The pen is mightier than the sword”? Well, in this case, let's substitute the pen with words. Words if spoken harshly, can really hurt a person. 

They can hurt so much like blades cutting into you and words from a trusted loved one can do the worst of damage. A harsh comment passed by a random stranger is easy to ignore and forget. 

But when your partner or your spouse does same, it can serve a devastating blow that may hurt you for the rest of your life. I guess we can all say that mean words from our loved ones hit a different type of nerve.

Because of this, the best thing to do most often is to think before we speak. Here, we have to observe the golden rule of treating others the way we would like to be treated. 

If you lose your temper and can’t control what to say, then walk away. Give yourself a chance to calm down. Sometimes you can apologize and make amends for something you said in anger. 

However, there are some types of statements that can hurt more than others They may be so cruel that even an apology can’t fully fix the damage. If you value your relationship and want to preserve it, avoid these harsh statements at any cost.

1. Do not insults  

Avoid attacking and criticizing your partner for their personal features or things that they can’t control. You should not call them fat, old or any insult that is deeply personal and can’t easily change. 

Nobody can help with getting old. This category can also include statements like “I wish you were taller” or “I wish you had a different family.”

 

2. Don't make cruel,mocking statements    

A good example could be “You sound just like an old woman!” Most people have some hang-ups of some sort about ageing. Using that worry as a weapon against them is another effective way to hurt them badly. 

Don’t also try to imitate the sound of your partner’s voice or their speech mannerisms. Although this is pretty common, it doesn’t have any real positive effect.

3. Avoid statement that could be considered conditional love  

Try not to make statements like “I would love you more if you were slimmer, or weren’t so demanding. The problem is with the first part of the statement. It sends out the idea that your love is conditional and that it depends on certain actions or characteristics of your partner.

To build and keep a healthy relationship, you have to express unconditional love. We can use the unconditional love of a parent for a child as an admirable model for a strong relationship. 

No matter what the child says or does, the parent still loves them and always will. The parent may be angry, upset or unhappy but it doesn’t lessen the level of love they feel and express for their child. 

So don’t ever make your love conditional by saying anything mean along those lines because that cross would be too heavy to bear.