Things He Says During Sex And What He Really Means

We can’t go around it, sometimes sex can just be awkward. It doesn’t mean it’s bad. It’s just not always mind-blowing. Especially when we are having sex with someone new, we expect that he is not going to understand what we want and how we want it done. We are more able to express what we do and don’t want sexually, but it’s not always the same for men. Most men have learned how to use certain expressions to express their lack of self-confidence in bed or even if he wants to do something different. Here is exactly what he means when he says it:

1. When he says, “Do you like that” he’s just making sure you actually like it

Most often when he asks you if you like it’s not because he doesn’t know whether she likes it or not, but because it turns him on to hear you moan while you try to say that she does. Other times too, when he does, he really needs to know. Maybe he tried something new and he isn’t quite sure if he should stop or not. He wants to make sure you’re enjoying it as much as he is, so he needs to know what to do and what you enjoy. Even guys get nervous during sex. They aren’t always going to know if they’re doing the right thing.

2. When he says, “How do you want it?” he means “What’s your favorite position?”

Guys are going to enjoy s3x no matter what, usually. He’s not going to automatically know what your favorite position is. He can’t read your mind, and it can be nice to be assertive and tell him exactly what you want. He knows he’s going to get his, so he wants to make sure that you get yours. Be thankful for this, not every guy cares if you get yours.

3. When he says, “You know what would be great?” he wants to try something new

 Sure, some suggestions may be a bit weird, but they’re worth trying out. Only if you are absolutely comfortable with it. Do not do anything you don’t feel okay doing. If he asks you to talk dirty, then you know he wants to try something new or even get a little weird. There’s no shame about it. The only people who are going to know are you and him. You never know, you could turn out to really like it. If not, then just don’t do it again. At least you tried.

4. When he says, “wait, did you hear that?” he’s trying to distract you for a second because he almost came too fast

When you end doing a move that moves him he might just give him a second to calm himself down a bit, not too much, before you start going again. He likes what you were doing, but he just wasn’t prepared for it in that second. It can be very embarrassing for a guy to cum too quickly, especially if he’s trying to impress you. Distracting you gives you both a chance to calm down for a little bit before getting back into it.