The exact moment marriages can end

In recent times, the divorce rate has been keeping up with countless marriage certificates, all over the world. Even in a country like India, where marriage is believed to be sacred and divorce carries a highly negative connotation, people are heading for splitville. After all, they realise that being forced to live with a partner you feel no connection with can be extremely tormenting. However, people still give their best towards keeping their marriages alive and intact. But sometimes, it is just not enough.

What causes a marriage to end?

Emotional restraints are one of the biggest factors for ending marriages. Once the love, connection, understanding and trust is gone, it’s hard to get those feelings back. Couples, however, still manage to go on with their lives and focus on different things to avoid the glaring differences in their marriage. No matter how hard they try, the will to cover up the mistakes is a rare privilege only a few have. Don’t get me wrong. Not that it’s good to cover them up. But yes, if you want to keep your marriage, then that’s the most possible way out of it.

Trying to love after realising that your marriage isn’t the same as before, or is going to end, can feel disastrous. You may still want to go on, relying on a thin thread of respect that’s left in the relationship. But is it ever enough? Almost not.

Respect in a marriage may be enough for society, but it’s never enough for you.

You can still feel happy and content that you still have your marriage put up together. The exterior may seem all goody-perfect, but a sneak-peek into the interior will what put your pride to shame. It’s almost acceptable when a couple tries to mend their marriage, communicate more, forgive more, trust more and believe more. However, it is difficult to estimate the amount of effort they will actually put into the broken relationship. It’s usually this way: you may boast of doing everything in your power to save something, but in reality, it’s only an ounce of effort.

Don’t fret though. This may be unknowingly and knowingly as well. Those who have no intention or a care in the world to improve the marriage, will hardly try to give their effort. While on the other hand, those who are trying to actually do something about it, end up contributing only so much, unknowingly. In these circumstances, the other person in the relationship has to step up and take the strings. You have to make them understand that for a marriage to strive or even get back on the tracks again, they will have to provide more attempts and attention at it.

Weddings are a magical dream, but marriage is the reality

Promises made on the wedding day or during the proposal, have very little significance when a marriage is crumbling down. At that point in time, they become just words that had meaning once upon a time. If you're thinking to cling onto the promises made to you before your marriage, then don't expect. At all. We can’t really blame it all on people too much, because it’s natural human behaviour. To promise and to break them. Nonetheless, exceptionally amazing people who have the zeal to fight for their love, keep on trying despite the number of times, they’ve taken a fall.

Marriages are complex, and so it’s really difficult to understand whether it will end or not. Identifying the last bit of straw that’s the glaring red alert, is completely difficult to do so, then in a relationship-where legal and societal ties don’t bind you. Despite all differences, if a person refuses to change, ever, then that’s your cue.

That’s when you realise that your marriage will end.

You can’t sacrifice your mental being just for the sake of keeping your marriage safe. If your partner refuses to change their toxic ways, then know this: it is for the best. Your partner can’t change their ways, nor can they even try to make you happy. The same goes for you too. This will end in both of you getting extremely frustrated. The moment you realise that your partner will never subject to altering their ways that have destroyed the marriage till date, it’s then that you have to accept it and be ready for a life-changing event. Divorce.

Taking it hard on yourself will never do you good. Instead learn to accept the fact that your partner and you both had differences that could never be mended, especially when your partner isn’t responsible or accountable enough.