Ways To Learn To Trust Men Again After Being Betrayed

Trust is the foundation of a great relationship. When that trust is broken, and you’ve been betrayed by your former boyfriend or husband, it can feel like you can’t trust anyone but yourself. Learning to trust men again after a devastating betrayal might seem like a long shot, but it is definitely possible.

Here are some of the ways you can work towards learning to trust men again.

1 Stop blaming yourself. It wasn’t something you did or said that caused your partner to betray you. It was as simple as the fact that you picked a bad egg. You got it wrong last time by putting your trust in someone who didn’t have the decency to value that trust, and you most definitely learned from that experience.

Remember that when someone betrays their partner, they are not a loyal and honest person of good moral character. You didn’t want 

someone like that in your life, and you shouldn’t blame yourself for someone else’s bad behavior.

2 Feel your feelings. Make sure you go through the feelings of grief, loss, sadness, guilt, and anger, even when they are hard to face. It can be uncomfortable to confront painful feelings head-on instead of suppressing them.

However, it’s important for you to feel the ugly feelings, so that you can gain closure and let them go in a healthy way.

3 Write it out. Write out all the feelings you felt when your partner betrayed you, and also write why you never want to feel them again. Then write all of the positive things about the people that you do trust in your life.

Affirm to yourself that you will find someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated, and write down a list of qualities that you need in a potential partner. These lists will be the basis for your future dating endeavors, and they will help you narrow down your relationship prospects with ease.

4 Surround yourself with people you trust. Trustworthy people will serve to be constant reminders that there are people in the world who can be trusted, and there are plenty of people who are loyal and honest with their partners. Look at the good hearted people in your life, and remember them whenever you notice yourself feeling reluctant to trust again.

5 Remember: Not all men are the same! Not all men are unfaithful or dishonest, and you will never attract a good guy by believing that all men are lying, cheating dogs. At worst, you’ll only end up pushing great men away with your paranoia.

Have faith that since you have already had to deal with betrayal once before, you won’t have to go through it again. Learn to seek out better qualities in a future partner by recalling the bad ones your previous partners had.

Dealing with betrayal is no walk in the park, but following these steps will ensure that you can leave the past behind, and attract a better man into your life.