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Equality in a relationship doesn’t mean that everyone earns exactly half of the income. It doesn’t mean that you do the dishes the same amount of times he does each week. In reality, an equal relationship means that each of you contributes a fair amount and that all contributions have value. Do you want to build more equality in your relationship? Here are some helpful tips. Start by having a conversation about what equality means to you both. People can have different ideas about what equality in a relationship means. It’s important to be clear about that before you can start the process of developing a truly equal relationship. Talk about your vision of an equal relationship. How will it make you stronger as a couple? Is there any situation in which that changes? Focus on respect. If there’s a lack of respect on the part of either partner, a truly equal relationship cannot exist. Respect means open communication but it also means listening without interruption. What are the boundarie

Marriage is no small undertaking. It’s very serious – and you need to be taking it seriously. A lot of us are going to want to find a special someone with whom we can spend the rest of our lives. Marriage is a social institution that has been around for the longest time now. And we’ve seen so many couples try their hand at wedding only to have their relationships crumbling down into ashes. And you never want that for yourself. When you commit to something as serious as marriage, you must always make sure that you don’t take that commitment lightly. You still need to ensure that you are putting your best foot forward and that your mind is clean when coming to a decision. There are just far too many failed marriages that could have been avoided with a little more tact and care at the onset of a relationship. There are so many couples who are inherently incompatible, and they should never be getting married in the first place. Some specific individuals might be high in relationships but a

There are a lot of men out there who are unjustly judged by women to be total douche bags. But it’s hard to blame women for that. So many women in the world have fallen victims to the treacherous romantic games that a lot of these immature men play in dating and relationships. Sometimes, when someone gets used and abused way too much in a relationship, it can scar them for life. Here are the 8 signs that your man will never stop loving you 1. He commits to both you and your relationship. He makes an effort to really commit to both you and the relationship. He proves to you that he isn’t interested in keeping his options open anymore. He isn’t playing it safe. He really wants to go all-in with you. He is sure about being with you and he doesn’t want to be entertaining any other possibility anymore. 2. He doesn’t ignore the issues in your relationship. He never just walks away from fights and arguments. He doesn’t just take the problems that you have in a relationship and swe

Cheating. Infidelity. Adultery. These are fairly complicated concepts that are far from being simple. There are many variables that go into cheating in a relationship. Cheating can take its shape in various forms and degrees. There are also a number of various motivating factors that can drive a person to cheating and engaging in infidelity. It can be really hard to spot a cheater in a relationship because a lot of the time, they are so good at just hiding their tracks and making sure that they don’t get caught.  1. They become more interested and adventurous when it comes to sex. Stereotypically, people tend to think that once someone engages in a sexual relationship with a third-party, they come less invested in their sexual life with their partner. However, that isn’t necessarily the case. It’s likely that the cheating individual is going to take all of the sexual energy and development from the third-party and bring all of these into the actual relationship itself. So a renewed sex

When you’re just getting to know a guy and you really like him, it’s only natural to want to go all-in right away and lock him down. However, it’s important to slow down and leave him wanting more to make those early stages that much more exciting and enjoyable. Not sure how to do it? Here are a few tips. Hang up the phone. You don’t want to be rude, but it’s good to end conversations, whether on the phone or via text, a little sooner than you want. Don’t talk on the phone for hours even though it’s tons of fun. You don’t want the chat to reach a boring stage because that’s what you’ll leave him with. Instead, end the chat when things are on a high note. He’ll be waiting for the next time he can talk to you. Keep dates short and sweet. The same thing goes with your dates. Yes, it’s awesome to be able to spend hours with him, but if you’ve just met the guy, you don’t want to give everything away on your dates. Make him crave you by ending the date after about an hour or two. This will e

It’s always good to put in the effort in a relationship. After all, the best things in life never come easy. And if you want the kind of love that you think you deserve, you’re going to have to make sure that you put in the work to earn it. Love was never designed to be easy after all. So it’s only normal that you have to work for it a little bit. 1. She always makes the relationship all about herself. She is selfish. She never thinks about your needs. She never concerns herself with your feelings. It’s always about her. She only cares that her expectations and needs are being met. She always wants to be the center of attention of the relationship.  2. You share fundamentally different values. It’s just hard whenever you share fundamentally different values and principles in life. It’s so hard to establish a sense of compatibility between the two of you if you just virtually disagree on fundamental principles. You need to be on reconcilable moral planes if you want your relationship to

What do you do when you are stressed? Stress is one major thing that we can’t seem to get rid of, annoyingly it can also be really damaging health wise. There are days when we are so stressed either because of work or because of our families and this may result in your lashing out at the innocent people around. There are several cool and hilarious things you can do to de-stress, this are the ones that would do the magic without going all the way. Yoga This is the ultimate, you can download videos online if you don’t have one near you or simple lift dun-bells. Have a glass of wine Have a glass of wine or maybe two glasses, but make sure you don’t get drunk and start looking up your exes on Facebook, you will surely regret that……..lol Meditate Just sit, close your eyes and meditate. It helps to calm your nerves. Breath in and breath out till you are relaxed. Breath, visualize a stress-free environment, visualize getting married to your crush on a beach in Barbados………Lol   Listen to sooth

We’ve all been there before. One minute, you’re having a great text back-and-forth with a guy and then BAM! You suddenly get ghosted. It can be really alarming, especially if you really thought the relationship was going well. It can also cause you to overthink — was it something you said? Did you accidentally offend him? You might go into panic mode, wondering whether or not to delete his text chain or keep texting back. Take a deep breath and follow these steps first. Make sure he actually was gone for a significant time. When you’re really into someone, a 15-minute delay might seem like a full day. Don’t let your excitement cloud your common sense. If the two of you are just feeling each other out, it’s possible he’s dating multiple people. It’s also possible he’s got a lot of home obligations and isn’t constantly glued to his phone. Think up the many possibilities before you land on “he’s ghosting me.” Turn your phone off. This will be hard. Phones have become somewhat of a lifelin

Whether you’re talking, flirting, kissing, or having sex, eye contact is one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner that breeds ultimate closeness. You know what they say, eyes are the windows to the soul and they are able to express things even before you ever say them. Learning to embrace eye contact will help you and your partner become better communicators. A lot of people have a difficult time making eye contact, especially during intimate moments. It can often feel a lot easier to look away or let your eyes wander around the room, or do anything but look your partner right in the eye. In an age of social media and technological communication where a lot of our interactions don’t happen in person, it can seem harder than ever before to embrace eye contact. But, it’s important to work on making eye contact with your partner even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Making eye contact helps establish intimacy and promote trust, which are key facets of any healthy re

Have you ever wondered what guys notice first when they see a girl? Here are 7 things a guy could glance at, the very first time he lays eyes on you. #1 Your smile.  Smiles make the world go round. If he’s really interested in you, he’ll notice everything, from your dimples to your pear white teeth and also the way your smile hangs in an adorably lopsided way. Always remember the saying, “Never frown, because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.” #2 Your eyes.  They say that your eyes are windows to your soul, so be sure to leave those thick glasses at home and wear your contacts if you’re headed for a night out. That being said, it’s true that some guys find glasses on a girl cute, so if you think you can still rock looking good, by all means—go ahead. #3 Your hair.  Unless you’re meeting in the middle of the rainforest, he’ll definitely take your hair into account. Always make sure your hair is looking neat and tidy when you step out. It’s a big no-no to show up to a

Bananas are ranked high among the world’s healthiest foods and for good reasons. It is incredible that these creamy, wonderfully sweet fruits in a yellow jacket are available all year round so that we can happily reap the amazing benefits from New Year to Christmas. Bananas contain various nutrients in different amounts, all of which have unique health benefits for all to enjoy;   Bananas are high in potassium which is very good for your heart. Potassium is a mineral electrolyte that keeps electricity flowing through your system, thereby keeping your heart in top shape. According to renowned nutritionists having such high potassium content and low sodium levels, bananas can keep your blood pressure at safe levels and prevent cardiovascular problems. These fruits are great for alleviating depression and stress owing to the presence of tryptophan, a compound that the body converts to serotonin; the chemical you need to be happy. Your mum might sing endless praises to the carrot for givin

There is always going to be a price to pay for strength. When a woman actually chooses to portray her true self in a genuine and unfiltered manner, that doesn’t always make her the most popular person in the world. A lot of times, strong and independent women tend to live very lonely and solitary lives because of their off-putting personalities. They are very confident people and they know that they are capable of finding success in this life on their own. But their confidence can be perceived as threatening to very insecure people. A strong woman is someone who learns very early on in her life that she is going to have to make a lot of difficult decisions. And she also knows that she has to stand by her choices. She knows that she always has to live a life of conviction and principle. She isn’t interested in living the kind of life that pleases everyone. She isn’t interested in not offending every single person around her. She isn’t going to be craving for the approval and admiration

Love is a beautiful thing and we all long for that one person who takes our breath away, and loves us right. Well, too bad that sounds more like a Disney fairytale than it is real life. But don’t get me wrong. A good number of lucky couples out here are living that dream many of us are still chasing. At the end of the day no one wants to grow old and die alone. We want to share our experiences and spend our lives with a genuine person who is there for the right reasons. This is a serious life decision and if you’re not careful, you may be left with a messy divorce case to deal with and an annoying partner you have to co-parent with. To avoid disastrous outcomes and heartbreak, here are some dating tips on finding the  right person  you might want to consider: 1.  Take your time Rome wasn’t built in a day and so will your relationship. Running into a relationship without getting to know the other person well is a recipe for disaster. Take is easy. Don’t allow attraction and chemistry to

Let’s say that you like a guy and consider him as potential boyfriend material- what exactly made you think he’s the one? Do you know him inside out? No one enters a relationship to have their hearts brokenlater on. However, there are a lot of relationships that result in that exact thing because people fail to know the person they’re with. You like a guy. You like the way he looks and even his personality. However, do you pay attention to everything he says? Believe it or not, it’s the tiniest detail that can turn Prince Charming into a frog, the details most people overlook.   Before moving on to the signs themself, let’s talk about why people tend to overlook them. The main reason is that people are so in love that they think it wouldn’t matter. They’re wrong. Correct now, you’re at the stage where you haven’t officially entered into a relationship yet. Hence, all you can see is the good in the guy. I mean, even you look better than you would have on an average Saturday night. Corre

What if you could make every photo of yourself 100% better with a few easy tricks?  Many of us hate taking pictures because we’re embarrassed by our teeth. And that means we have trouble smiling on command. Wondering how to have a perfect smile so you never fear another photo? Just keep reading to learn the secret! 1. Tooth Whitening One reason people get nervous about smiling is that color of their teeth. Hollywood has trained us to love perfectly white teeth, so anything less than that can make us feel our teeth are unhealthy. Fortunately, there are a variety of ways to whiten your teeth. The most basic version is to use toothpaste every day that is designed to do that. You can also use a special tooth whitening agent at night. It only takes a few minutes and makes a real difference in your smile! 2. Gentle Smile Another reason some people have a “bad” smile is they are always forcing it in photos. You can avoid this by trying a gentle smile instead. You can practice in front of a mi

When it comes to sex, men are always excited to amp up the temperature in the bedroom. They are happy to get it going anywhere and anytime. It is mostly the women who look for creative ways to have interesting sexual sessions. Whether it is about using handcuffs or role-playing in the bedroom, women can also be a bit confused at times when it comes to pleasuring their men. Here are some well-sought-out pieces of advice for having sex with men. 1.Men love oral sex Ladies, it is time to use your hands and mouth. Men absolutely love oral sex and expect their partners to perform this for maximum pleasure. And to add to this, men would love it if women talk dirty to them during oral sex. 2.Men don’t like it when it’s monotonous Men don’t like monotonous sex. They always look for ways to spice it up in the bedroom. Getting into a boring routine is what most men fear. So, women should avoid this as much as possible. 3.Men love to try out different places The bedroom isn’t the only

How can romantic partners fix their trust issues We all have been deceived or underappreciated or under-loved in our lives and they have led to emotional baggage and developing trust issues, affecting our lives and relationships that may have been healthy and nurturing. There can be instances in your current relationship that are acting as a trigger and unearthing the long-forgotten trust issues to resurface and affect the stability and mental peace of you and your partner. Inspirational speaker and author Devina Kaur shares a few tips that can help you fix your trust issues and build a harmonious relationship. 1. Know your insecurities Trust issues can be deeply rooted and sprout from the slightest of triggers. Before you question your relationship and your partner, it is essential that you know and understand the cause of your insecurities. Yes, walking down memory lane can be overwhelming and frankly very terrifying but knowing how it started can help you from being negatively affec

If you are a short girl and your man is tall then there may be some issues cropping up when it comes to sex. So in order to combat them, here are 4 ways to make it easier and more fun. 1.Boost yourself There are many positions that are difficult to enjoy when there is a height difference. If you want to go doggy style, try a self booster. Place a pillow under your knees or opt for a higher platform perhaps. There are solutions to every problem, remember? 2.Spooning When it comes to plane old missionary sex, it can be very difficult simply because the feet dangle and sometimes it can be difficult for the receiver to wrap her legs around her partner. In this case, spooning would be much better as it is achievable for all heights. It is also an amazing sex position to stimulate your G-spot. 3.Staying on the edge You can always try being near the edge of the bed so that he can pull you easily. Your tall partner’s height will give him a sense of control and since he can pull you easily and

Sex is not what we see in adult films or read in romance novels, It is never perfect. But it gets funny or weird when there are awkward moments amid the action. Here are 6 things men said that made things weird in the bed. Has this happened to you too? Scroll down and let us know. 1.Yelling in the end No we are not talking about the climax yelling that normally people do when they reach that point. There are some men who yell “I am the man”, “Han Solo”, “I did it” kind of phrases at the end. Agreed that it may feel like an achievement for some but yelling it out loud can be weird, and funny. 2.Can you imagine someone else? Yes, you read that right! This has happened during sex for some women. Just when they had begun and when she was taking a long time to climax, or they were not feeling wet enough, they have been asked to shut their eyes and “imagine someone who does it better!” 3.Talking about work in the middle of sex Imagine being in the middle of sex, half way there, r