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Manning up isn’t toughening up – it’s about softening up. I still have no idea what I was thinking. Who was that man who showed up during 10 years of my marriage? To be honest, I wasn’t a man, but an immature teenager both in behavior and attitude. It’s not that we men don’t want to grow up – it’s just that we don’t know how. I didn’t know how. I didn’t know what a responsible, mature and loving man looked like in a relationship. I believe more men would “man up” if they knew how to do so. No one teaches us this stuff. I believe more men would “man up” if they knew how to do so. No one teaches us this stuff. If all we have is our parents’ relationship, we’re screwed. The non-communicative, unemotional, and practical relationship of my Indian parents’ marriage hardly applies today. Women don’t want us to hide. They don’t want us to shut down. They don’t want one-word answers texted to them. They don’t want hostile temperaments, temper tantrums and the silent treatment. While I did every

Oftentimes, couples invest most of their time and energy providing for their kids. Dates become less often, romantic gestures are few and far in between, and diminishing sex life! Is your romantic life dwindling to a halt after the arrival of kids? Use these 8 naughty ways to step it up and bring sexy back into your lives! #1 Save water, shower together. Don’t settle for a good morning peck on the cheek from your partner. Before you head off to your respective daily duties, hop in the shower together and have some fun. You may not have enough time for each other for the rest of the day, so bonding while doing your hygiene routine may give you something to look forward to each morning. #2 Have a daily ritual. Rituals and routines may not seem romantic, but it’s the consistency that keeps your bond intact. Showering is just one of many daily rituals you can do. A couple of other examples include spending your lunch hour together *if you work near each other* or cuddling for a couple of m

How to handle a situation when you don't want to have sex as much as your partner wants to It's very normal to feel your sexual desire shoot out the ceiling one day and have no traces of it the next day. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Sexual desire ebbs and flows. It's also quite normal for your partner to have a higher sex drive than you do. But if you start to feel that your partner and you have mismatched libido, it might start to raise worries. Ultimately, it could even reflect on the quality of your relationship. And to deal with this, we've got you some tips to try. 1.Talk about it It's always easier said than done. Talking about sex with your partner might put you in a very vulnerable place. But it can also mean that you both are working on this issue together and your bond might get stronger than before. Be honest and candid with your partner and figure out a solution together. 2.Take into consideration how your partner feels If the person you hav

The idea that people never forget their first love is a universal one, and almost everyone retains some sentimental value for their first experience of romantic love, the first time they felt the sweet sensation of being the object of someone's romantic affection. But what is it about first love that makes it unforgettable? What’s the element about that first time in love, which elevates it to an untouchable, incorruptible place in the hearts of many? One obvious reason is for the fact of the novelty that first love always comes with. The headiness, the charm of it all, the newness of every sweet feeling you get in that period… it’s simply... new. It's nothing like you ever felt... quite unbeatable. Many attach that special feeling to that time, and invariably, the person who made them feel that way. “First love stories are so compelling… because there is something so powerful about a young love experience… it happens when our hearts are still innocent and pure…” writes Arlene

You might think you know everything there is to know about your boyfriend, but when you delve a little deeper, you might be surprised you still know very little. If you’re struggling to come up with a few questions that will help remind you of who your boyfriend is, check out these cute questions to ask your boyfriend; 1.  What is your favorite way to pass the time?  Everyone has something they like to do when they’re alone, bored, and just trying to waste a little time. Ask him what his favorite way to waste some time is and see if it matches up with what you already know. 2.  If you had to choose a favorite animal, what would it be?  You can learn a lot about a person by the type of animal they like best. Ask him his favorite animal and then share yours. 3.  What is the best dream you’ve ever had?  He might not remember it, but he’ll probably make one up anyway. This is a cute question because it tells you where his mind wanders during sleep. 4.  What five words would you choose to d

Words are a powerful tool that can make your partner grow mad with desire but it is rather unfortunate that many people find bedroom talk to be rather embarrassing. There are a good number of women who are turned on by naughty talks. There is a certain thrill in hearing your lover use “bad words.”  Effective bedroom talk means bringing yourself out of your comfort zone and expressing your desire. It means unleashing your inner sex goddess and surprising your partner. When used effectively, you and your partner can experience mind-blowing s3x. Let’s get ready to experiment: #1 “I’m yours.” While undressing, let your partner’s hands wander over different areas of your body. When you feel their touch in those areas, whisper in their ear, “I’m yours.” Saying these words will give your significant other a sense of ownership. It is an intimate act. #2 “Kiss me.” During sex, kisses can get very sensual. It will only make the moment more intimate when you tell your partner how hungry you are f

1.Adjusting to your needs Your husband will be willing to atone for his actions by adjusting to all your demands and needs. Since you’re the victim in this case, you have the power to demand and act on your choices and if, your husband is more than willing to adjust himself according to your needs, then he is truly remorseful. 2.Tries to earn your trust back If one cheats in a marriage, they pave the way for a crumbling relationship as trust completely disappears after the guilty act. It takes a lot of time to even trust your husband a little bit and so, if he is relentlessly making efforts to earn your trust back by doing everything you’ve wanted, then it’s a positive sign. 3.Apologising frequently Your husband will try to apologise for even the smallest mistake done by him. If he truly repents, he will try apologising to you a million times that he is truly, whole-heartedly sorry. Your husband will also not try to make vague promises and statements, but indeed express how sorry he is

You went out three nights ago, had a great time on the date, and no word. What do you do? Call her or him? Email? Wait? You probably call your best friend (who happens to also be single – doesn’t that say something?) and ask them what to do. Thus begins the strategy ritual, where thinking through the relationship replaces living through it. Do love strategies get you who you want or do you end up getting who you don’t want? Strategy became a popular buzzword in our culture within the last 10 to 15 years. It typically referenced business movement and analysis but it permeated the urban landscape when relationships became the stuff of strategy and innuendo. A strategy is designed to get us desired results. In business, we can dissect many components, compartmentalize the business sectors and generate a blueprint to be followed through to success or failure. The thinking is that success is the result more often than failure and thus strategies serve the business community well. In love, o

Men have their own sexual preferences in women. Likewise, women too have their own preferences when it comes to appearances. But for everything else, there are just 15 things that separate a great guy from the mere mortals. Understand these 5 tips and you can become a better man. You’ll notice the difference as soon as you use these tips on what women look for in a man. #1 Good grooming. Dress well and look good no matter where you are. You never know when you’d bump into the woman of your dreams. It’s a simple tip, but something almost all guys never focus on. Groom yourself well with quality man products and complex perfumes that smells great on you. #2 Be assertive in your behavior. Women love a man who’s not fickle minded. Have an ego and believe in yourself and your decisions. As hard as this may seem, be the man who can put someone else in place when they overstep the line or misbehave with you. #3 Charming personality. A charming personality is everything, but yet it’s not somet

In a relationship nobody is perfect, we all do make mistakes but the ability to accept your mistakes and take the responsibility of it, is what keeps the relationship strong and happy. Because in every relationship there must be a problem of one thing or the other but what makes it a good relationship is the forgiveness and understanding that is there. Now to answer the question. What do you do when you make a big mistake in a relationship? Have a re–think over the relationship. First of all think about the whole relationship and ask yourself what you really want in the relationship. Relax your mind and know if you are really the cause of the problem, or the relationship itself. Why I said so is this, if truly you are the problem then you can move on to know what to do and make your partner forgive you. But if is the relationship itself that is the problem then is a waste of time looking for what to do because there may be another problem. Ask for forgiveness. Since you are the cause o

🍑I love you The simplest and most clear of all the signs is if he tells you he loves you. However, several people will say this without meaning it, and while he might actually be truthful when he says this, it's an even better sign when he says this while also saying or asking some of the other things on this list. I love you alone, with none of the others on this list, might not be real love. 🍑I miss you The guy who truly loves you will love to spend time with you and will think about you all the time. Two people in love simply cannot get enough of each other! If it's easy for him to ignore you and fill his time with other activities and people, he probably isn't all that vested. Guys that just pop up every once in a while and say they are too busy to text you back, probably isn't truly in love with you. 🍑You are my best friend True love usually has a great friendship base, and that doesn't mean who two had to be BFFs before you started dating. You might have st

There are countless ways to tell someone you love them. If you can’t find the right words to use, here are some ideas. You can even use them when you’re composing your vows!  8 Undeniably true reasons why I love you. #1 You accept me for who I am.  We’re all of us different in so many ways and I am no exception. But whereas others have tried to change me, to try and make me fit their personal expectations, you always accept me for who I am and love me for being that person. #2 You make me feel attractive.  There is never a moment when a compliment does not pass your lips, nor a second when you are not eager to share with me your good opinion on my looks and appearance. #3 You support my aspirations.  Never would you entertain the thought, for even the merest of seconds, of telling me that I am being unrealistic or silly. Everything you can do, either through kind words or encouraging actions, you will do to help me make my dreams a reality. #4 You listen to me.  Sometimes all I want to

An issue that arises in the growth of a relationship is ‘no one has an idea on what to work on’. According to the experts, most failed relationships they have encountered lacked either one or more of the suggested habits. These habits can be learnt by all and increase the chances of having a long-lasting relationship. Be curious, not critical    It is important to invest the time you have in understanding and appreciating the differences each partner brings to a relationship. Most often, it is easier to put all efforts in downplaying or criticising the strengths and weaknesses each partner possesses rather than taking time to appreciate the uniqueness each partner brings to the table. The focus in the relationship must be to grow, build and develop each other and not the other way round. Be careful, not crushing   Most, if not all relationships engage in an argument from time to time. Due to the human difference, it is expected. The issue here is the intensity and the extent to which t

I understand how lovely and sweet your husband is to you and how much you love him. Looking for the most adorable things that you can say to him shows that you love him so much. If you are here today to know the sweetest thing that you can tell your husband, you are in the right and exact place to learn that. Because I am going to show you the most loving things that you can say to your husband, I promise you that he will forever cherish you if you use them and text them to him as messages. Without saying much and wasting your time, I will go straight to your question, “what is the sweetest thing to say to your husband?” So that you will learn them. 1. Forever I will follow your rain, come sun. In sickness and good health, wherever you want in this life, I will be there with you because my love for you never dies. 2. Forever is not enough for me to be with you, my dear husband, I wish to live all my existence with you—both in life and in death. 3. I believe I found a miracle in you bec

1. To live without you feel as if I am in the dark because light can’t be in my life if I live without you. 2. Life without you is like a body without air. 3. It is when I look at your face every morning. I only believe that I have a million reasons to live in this world. 4. I can’t stop thinking about your smiles and kisses, it all over me, and I feel empty now that you are not here with me. 5. My heartfelt so lonely since you left, I don’t think I can survive in this world without you by my side.

Don’t want to be that annoying girlfriend? Here are all the annoying girlfriend habits guys hate more than any other things in a relationship. #1 Talking about your relationship issues with others.      Even the best of relationships does have its own share of ups and downs. When a guy’s having a hard time in the relationship, he shuts himself up and gets surly. When a girl’s having a hard time in love, she tweets about it, hashtags it, and calls her friends and whines about what a shitty boyfriend she has. Now of course, all girls don’t do this. But if you do, well, you know you’re on this list of annoying girlfriends. Guys hate washing their dirty underwear in public. They don’t like talking about a bad relationship and they really don’t think they need any advice on love. #2 When you leave him with a hard on.     Girls love cuddles, and men understand that. But if you like a lot of foreplay and no real play, it’s obviously going to annoy your man. Men don’t mind a bit of

For some weird reason, women have this strange culture to keep quiet during sex and many men don't find this amusing, The men would like to get some feedback and know how they are doing on the bed, and they will like to know this from the words the women say when the game is on.  Just like how you want to know if your man is happy in bed, your man too expects the same from you. Every man wants to know if his woman is satisfied sexually. How you show it to him is something very subjective. Some women moan, while others just prefer to be silent. There are also several women who do dirty talking during sex and these women have claimed to have a great sex life. So for those women who think that silent sex is good, let us tell you that men love noises and dirty talks. Men love hearing it from your mouth what you like and how you like it. These talks should not be done before or after sex, but ti should be done during sex. It helps in boosting your sex life and it will also turn on your

This is the universal question that everyone wants to know. To score brownie points in bed and the relationship as well, it’s important to know what your partner wants. Conversations, spending time together can help partners get to know each other but nothing more works well for women than sex. Sex is a very intimate action and people feel the most vulnerable after they’ve just had sex. This stamina-induced activity is not only good for the body, but also releases happy endorphins within the mind and the system. People are usually happy and flustered after they’ve had sex because the feeling is so great, that keeping it within yourself isn’t the most exciting thought. Sharing your feelings after the deed can be much better than you actually think. Women have loved to chat after sex, since ages. Most do not like the silence that accompanies after it. So, just talking about anything seems the most viable option. In fact, researchers have found out that women dislike it when their partner

Here are 10 important things that if a man does to his wife, will have built up his own protection against any thief or robbery there . # 1 - Get her to urinate before you start to interrupt her (delay) It may seem a little strange and strange, but the truth is. This is something that most women would like to be treated by their partners but which men do not. Many prepare women for the purpose of making sure they are vaginal, meaning they have been cleared to allow them to penetrate easily, but most women would like more. If a man is able to get a woman to urinate before he intervenes, you add to the opportunity to make him enjoy the act of mutual gratification and place you among the finest men of his life. This makes her already in a position of needing only your penis to score a second, and this means that it can be very helpful to those who suffer from urinary problems. Even if you get hit in the future just the same ... Let him !!! # 2 - Explore other areas that excite her Yes, we

There are so many definitions of love but there is one thing we should all understand when it comes to this. You see no matter your love language, you should know and understand that love is a selfless act. Loving someone is about giving and not necessarily looking for what you would receive in turn. Back when I was in high school, my friends and I tried to create “love potions” to get our crushes to fall in love with us. Obviously, it didn’t work. You can’t necessarily make someone or force someone to love you but doesn’t mean you can’t give it a little push. As I got older, I realised that there are certain manoeuvres you can do to make yourself more likeable as a person and catch the eye of the person you’re falling hard for. Interested? Here are 4 tips that can help. ALWAYS LISTEN TO THEM Take one week and analyse how you talk to other people. Do you interrupt them? Are you negative towards them? These aren’t attractive traits or whatsoever. Try to listen to what someone has to say

Empathy is one of the most important abilities that help people understand each other. So why is it even more important in your relationship? By Lianne Choo It is not uncommon to disagree with another person’s views. Be it politics, religion, or something as silly as whether you should be using paper or plastic at the supermarket, there is nothing wrong with disagreeing with someone. However, it is very important to practice empathy, if you want to foster lasting relationships with those around you. So what exactly is empathy? Not to be confused with sympathy, which is the ability to feel sorrow for someone else’s misfortune, empathy is being able to connect with and understand the feelings of another. In a nutshell, it is putting yourself in another person’s shoes and not freaking out about it. Whether with your friends, family members, kids, neighbors, colleagues or your favorite Starbucks barista, empathy is very important when it comes to building lasting relationships with others.